Healthy Living
Anxiety: Conversation Starters
Anxiety — an overwhelming feeling of fear, dread, and worry — can make it hard for people to do everyday activities. Letting a friend or loved one with anxiety know that you support them can really help. Use these tips to start a conversation.
Show you care.
You can say:
- “How are you feeling? I’m here to listen and support you.”
- “I’m worried that you’ve been feeling anxious lately. Let me know if you want to talk.”
- “I care about you and want you to feel better. Do you want to grab lunch and talk about it?”
Remind them things can get better.
You can say:
- “Lots of people deal with anxiety — it’s nothing to be ashamed of. And it can get better with treatment.”
- “There are therapies and medicines for anxiety. Getting treatment is the best thing you can do.”
- “I know asking for help can be hard, but getting treatment can help you get back to your normal activities.”
Offer to help.
You can say:
- “I want to help you through this. Can I help you make an appointment with your doctor?”
- “How can I best support you?”
- “You can call or text me anytime if you need support — or if you just want to talk.”
- “Moving your body can help you manage your stress and feel better. Do you want to meet for a walk on Saturday?”
- “You might feel better if you talk to people who are going through the same things as you. Can I help you find a support group?”
Ask life-saving questions.
Many people who have anxiety also have depression. Check in on your friend or loved one with anxiety. For example, you might ask: “Do you feel safe?” or “Have you felt hopeless or thought about hurting yourself recently? I’m here for you. Let’s call or text the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline at 988.”
Content last updated December 6, 2023
Reviewer Information
This information on anxiety was adapted from materials from the National Institute of Mental Health.
Reviewed by:
Alexander Talkovsky, Ph.D.
Program Chief, Anxiety Disorders Research Program
Division of Translational Research
National Institute of Mental Health